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Can my doctor call the American Red Cross to get my husband out to the Military and stay at home for good?

I am six months pregnant and my husband is in the military at AIT. I have developed depression and can't do anything w/o him and I feel like I am hurting my unborn baby. If I go to my ob/gyn and tell him my sysmtoms can he call the American Red Cross and get my husband home for good. With an honordischarge?

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1. It will not get him out. And especially not with an Honorable D/C.

2. If His buddies see him going home early cuz his wife misses him dont you think he would be considered a wus.

3. No, you can have your husband request a discharge, but your asking a lot unless your terminally ill, or can't take care of yourself like an emergency or something.....your depression could be due to the physical part of being pregnant....and it would not be an Honorable discharge, it would be a general discharge with honorable conditions...but he would no longer be eligible for any benefits, try waiting it out.....a military career for most is very rewarding...consult your doctor about possible help for you and your unborn child, also someone on here (Yahoo Answers) might know of a good online support group to help you through this...

4. If he is only in AIT, then this is a decision that was made after you were pregnant. Not fair to change the rules midstream. You have made your decision, and for your husbands sake do not press the issue as you will kill his ability to get promotions or provide a better life for you. He is sucking it up and living through very difficult times. It is your turn to show how you do the same. Honor him as he is honoring you.

5. if he got a medical profile that is the only way or he can dissert and walk out and he will get a dishonurable disharge not a good thing to have so the answer to this is no may i suggest ice cream? it makes me happy when i am in the dumps

6. I know this is a tough spot to be in. The first thing for you to do is to get in with a therapist. They can help you. Next, if you are living on or near a military base, contact the Family SUpport center there. They can help you connect with other wives who's husbands are deployed. I can not tell you how much that support helps. Most bases also have programs in place to help wives with things like yard work, car matinence and such, and with being pregnant that would be a huge help.

As for your husband coming home, that is a tough situation. Since he is only in AIT, I am assuming he went into the military, at least in part, to provide his family with some level of security. If he leaves, he has not been in long enough to receive any benefits when he leaves...you and your baby will loose your health benefits, housing allowances, etc. Also, because of the current situation, there is no garuntee that they will let him go. You husband should talk to his CO or lead instructor about this and see what they suggest. Even if it did work, he would not get an honorable discharge but more likely an emergency seperation. Please contact people who can help you with your depression. Talk with your husband and have him talk to his command. Trying to get him out of the service is not a simple thing and will have some impact on your family.

7. NO!
Suck it up and do like most of the military wives do. You cope!
In front of every good man, there is a good woman.
You are making it harder on him because of your whinning!
Shut-up and suck it up!

8. No, they will not send home for good. Tell me something? Did you know he was in the military before you married him???

You need to get some help to deal with your depression because he may be able to come home for emergency leave when the baby is born but that is all. There are many other women out there who have gone through the same things you are right now (me for one!). Time to deal with it and get help. Don't risk your husband's career by calling the Red Cross and whining.