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Should I let my daughter go back to my sister's house?

I love my sister and she is awesome with my daughter. My sister is 19 and very responsible. My 14 month old daughter LOVES her aunt! I mean sometimes I think she loves her more than me. lol. I know my sister takes very good care of her, but the only problem is something always happens to my daughter when she goes down there. Which my daughter is a very active 14 month old. The first time my daughter went down there, she picked a feather out of a feather pillow and got choked on it. My sister got her unchoked and called me. The second time she went down there she fell in the kitchen and hit her head on the cabinet. The last time she went down there, just yesterday my sister was giving her a bath and went around the corner to get a towel which only takes about 5 seconds and my daughter climbed out of the tub and landed on her arm. My sister calls me and tells me so I go get my daughter and she acts fine till late last night she wouldn't use that arm so I brought her to the emergency room and they said she was fine it was just a nurse aid injury. What would you do? I know accidents happen, but I'm just worried the natural mother worries.
lol, it looks like i'm on a roll today with all the questions! sorry!
ya'll are all right, I guess I just didn't really sit and think on it. Yes she does get hurt occasionally at home too. Guess I do need to "loosen" up a little, it's just hard...she is my only baby! lol.

Public Comments

1. she's a baby and she's curious, these things are bound to happen. then again, you're sister may need to keep a closer eye on her.

2. I have to wonder if your daughter doesn't have these little accidents when she's at home but you don't notice because you're right there.

Sometimes when we're not around little incidents seem much bigger because we didn't see them ourselves. We start imagining how things could have been so much worse and wonder if the person watching the child did all he/she could do. Was it just one of those things that happen despite the person's best efforts or was the person not paying attention? It's easy to let your fears tell you that the person didn't pay attention, but that might not be true.

I would say pay more attention to what bumps and bruises and accidents happen to your child at home. I think that you'll see the things that happen at your sister's house aren't that unusual in number or severity.

3. Of course not. If you need an entire bottle of valium to ease your mind while the kid is away from you and you can't enjoy yourself, just keep her underfoot and never let her go anywhere. I'm sure she gets bumps and bruises at home under your eagle eye too...kids that age are just accident prone little explorers bound to get hurt weekly if not daily in some fashion from falling and climbing and getting into things.

4. My daughter is not much older than yours and she is accident prone, all kids are at this age. It is not your sisters fault, I dont think it would be fair to your sister or your daughter if you dont let her babysit anymore. Accidents happen, you need to loosen the apron strings just a little.

5. I think that your sister is being very responsible about these things that happen...she was able to get the feather out of your daughters throut and even though she could have said nothing and your child wouldn't have been able to tell you, she has been very honest and always tells you. Children get hurt...it is part of life...yes you worry, moms do that, but we have to let our kids explore and learn about the world and if we hold on too tight they won't be able to do that. Your child probably has been hurt in your care too...if you think about it...and she'll be hurt in your care again. Let her go to your sisters.

6. Let her go see your sister. But also ask your sister to have everything she needs before a bath if she chooses to give your daughter a bath, including the towel.

I can not tell you how many times my kids have and do get hurt when at home and at other places. It happens and unless its a serious and preventable injury, then relax and enjoy the kid-free time.

7. No. but if you have to tell your sister to keep a better eye on her